Doing Well

After our worst day yet on Friday, we are on our THIRD good day in a row. Saturday, Ruthie started the day by testing me, and after an exhausting day previously, I had really had enough. Thankfully, after rounding at the hospital, Cameron was home all day and took over. Ruthie continues to test him in areas that she has finally submitted to me in. This really frustrates me to see her lack of universality in obedience, but I guess it is to be expected. She will attach to each person differently and in her own timing. However, Cameron is doing such a great job and she is beginning to really understand that yes, we are a united front and always will be. Yesterday, Ruthie began by testing us again. Cameron took control away immediately and she ended up having a wonderful day--even for a Sunday! Today, she woke up all smiles and did EVERYTHING that was asked of her--including school! She told me "Mommy, I coming to have a good day!" and she has meant it. I am so proud of her.

At our Bible study last night, something really struck me about this type of parenting with children who have attachment issues. We were talking about the fact that God puts us through trials in order to make us depend on Him, with the ultimate goal that we would trust Him more. I thought that was SO true with adoption and attachment. We literally are forcing Ruthie to go through trials, by taking control away, so that she will HAVE TO depend on us, with the goal that she would trust us and attach to us. What a great parallel and it made the "taking the battle away" idea more concrete to me.

In Christ, Laura